tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3264146773296846600.post8802230272880055419..comments2020-12-25T10:19:27.148-08:00Comments on Walking With You ~ Bereavement Support: Put it AwayKelly @ Sufficient Grace Ministrieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11182310611088290551noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3264146773296846600.post-82479471858250514322011-08-09T12:43:14.675-07:002011-08-09T12:43:14.675-07:00Hi Shannon,
I can't reply to your comment, s...Hi Shannon, <br /><br />I can't reply to your comment, so I'll answer here and send you a message on facebook as well. You ask some great questions, and I really appreciate your heart on this. There are some suggestions in the posts linked above in this post, but I will also share a little here. You are right to some extent that it can be very tricky trying to reach out to a grieving mama. Everyone is unique in grief and what may be comforting to one person may be offensive or hurtful to another. <br /><br />I spoke in one post about Job's friends and how they were comforting to Job when they just sat with him quietly. It was when they began to speak and spout their opinions that they started to become hurtful. That's good advice. We shouldn't judge our friends in grief or assume we know what they need. I will link to a couple posts that speak on what was helpful to me. And, the Christmas ornaments were something that mattered. While everyone is different, most people are comforted when we acknowledge their children. Even if our efforts are imperfect. You are right that there is little that can be said or done to comfort such a great agony. That's why just showing love and being there is sometimes the best course to follow. <br /><br />Acknowledging and remembering are also great gifts for a parent whose child most of the world seems to have forgotten or never known at all. <br /><br />This post shares some insights:<br />http://sufficientgrace-walkingwithyou.blogspot.com/2010/10/supporting-grieving-motherwhat-you-can.html<br /><br />I'll look up a few others and share those as well. <br /><br />Thanks again for the great questions. <br /><br />Love to you...Kelly @ Sufficient Grace Ministrieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11182310611088290551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3264146773296846600.post-6514664766677765092011-08-09T12:02:28.827-07:002011-08-09T12:02:28.827-07:00As someone who has not walked this extraordinarily...As someone who has not walked this extraordinarily difficult journey that you and so many others have had to face, I feel like trying to comfort and encourage someone facing great loss is almost disrespectful to the very real agony that they face every day. For those of us who do want to protect and defend our hurting friends from hurtful comments and situations, were there any especially helpful words that others gave you in this dark time? Or thoughtful acts that particularly ministered to the darkness of that season? You mentioned the Christmas ornaments for your girls... good idea or another painful reminder of loss?Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14248657549762129267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3264146773296846600.post-17647539077911021062011-08-09T10:29:57.900-07:002011-08-09T10:29:57.900-07:00Great post, Kelly!!Great post, Kelly!!Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3264146773296846600.post-57513024227214160082011-08-09T07:19:44.848-07:002011-08-09T07:19:44.848-07:00You bless me. What a servant for Christ you are, ...You bless me. What a servant for Christ you are, Kelly. xoxoVeronica @ Luv My Quiver Full Of Arrowshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11224744767805556528noreply@blogger.com